I have to start by asking: Have you ever read the book 5 Love Languages? I did and it saved my marriage before we were even married. Sean & I both read that book. We've loaned out (and lost because they aren't returned) over a dozen copies of that book. We consider it one of the best written books regarding marriage. We were speaking different languages while dating and didn't realize that it would eventually drive a wedge between us. By both reading the book, we knew how the other person thinks and what they need to 'hear' love. Truly, it saved our marriage before we ever said, "I do."
And now, from the same author, comes a new book called "growing up social - raising relational kids in a screen-driven world". I'll tell you the title alone was enough to grab my attention and make me have a moment of clarity. The photo on the cover about knocked me over. How often do I see this same moment playing out all over the place? And...how many times have my husband and I looked like this? The most scary moment of all...how often do my kids look like this?
So while I didn't really have time to read a book and I didn't really have an opening in my schedule for this review, I knew I needed to say yes. Sometimes, you have to make time from the urgent things of life to take care of the vital. I believe this message is vital. And I'm happy to announce that you too can win a copy of this book...keep reading to find out how.
I want to quote the authors up front. Chapman and Pellicane write, “This is not an anti-technology book. Technology is here to stay, and we believe you can find positive ways to utilize it for your relationships.”
I think the biggest lie of technology and social media is the illusion of real community and friendship when that person can't read your expression or tone of voice. It feels like community--and might be for periods of time off and on--but the reality is that it's not as authentic as we'd like to think it is. And we spend so much time 'connecting' through YouTube, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, Vine, etc, etc, etc. that somewhere along the way, we no longer take time to talk and interact and fellowship with humans...with each other.
Below is the video trailer for the book.
Is technology bringing your family closer together or driving you farther apart?
Children today are no longer playing hide-and-seek outside or curling up with a good book—instead they’ve been introduced to a world of constant digital entertainment through television, video games, and mobile devices. And while technology has the potential to add value to our lives and families, it can also erode a sense of togetherness and hinder a child’s emotional and social development.
In Growing Up Social, Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane will empower you with the necessary tools to make positive changes…starting today. Through stories, wit, and wisdom, you’ll discover how to take back your home from an over dependence on screens. Plus, you’ll learn to teach the five A+ skills that every healthy child needs to master: affection, appreciation, anger management, apology, and attention.
•Equip your child to be relationally rich in a digital world•Replace mindless screen time with meaningful family time•Establish simple boundaries that make a huge difference•Discover what’s working for families that have become screen savvy•Learn healthy ways to occupy your child while you get things done
Now is the time to equip your child to live with screen time, not for screen time. No phone, tablet, or gaming device can teach your child how to have healthy relationships—only you can.
I will tell you I'm loving the book. I'm not all the way finished but it's making a true impact in my own life. As the authors state so eloquently, "No phone, tablet or gaming device can teach your child how to have healthy relationships--only you can." How's that for a healthy dose of truth?
I hope you will take time to read and apply the lessons in the book. It's a message that is so critical in today's world.
Would you like to win a copy of Growing Up Social?
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Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post.